The Relations

Going through childhood, adulthood and the other hoods, relations gets created, maintained and ended with all kinds of closure. I wanna share my thoughts about these relationships with you.

Human relations are built on feeling, not on reason or knowledge. And feeling is not an exact science; like all spiritual quialities, it has the vagueness of greatness about it. 

- Amelia Barr, Novelist

Your decades as a growing individual can mean hundreds of new people you have to relate to; the fact is that keeping a close and personal relationship to everybody you meet and greet is an impossibility. But does that mean that you have to be selective, and whats the right recipe for that? I wanna split this thought into three kinds of relationships; the stranger, the friend and the lover.

The Stranger

In the modern age, with all new medias and ways of connecting people to one another, a question mark can be put after the word "relationship". Being familiar with someone or just stalking a person on a social media can quickly escalate. We're not strangers to each other in the same way as we were 50 years ago. Today you can learn lots about the guy next door by locating him on the social medias; his name, hobbies, work, maybe even what he had for dinner last night. 

Getting to know the "right" strangers can possibly make you skip af few steps on the path to a dream career, but who decides if this connection is a real relationship or just purely business?

The Friend

Good friends are worth gold; the girl you used to play hide and seek with in kindergarten, the classmate you made fun of the teacher with in middle school, the bestie in high school who backed you up, the colleague that understands your whole marriage situation better than yourself.

Good friends are worth a lifetime, but some of them may wither with time. On the other side, some relations resurrect from the dead leading to something even better than what it used to be. Maybe you weren't ready, maybe you needed to find yourself a bit or maybe the common interest just wasn't there. All you know, is that now is the time to bring this person into your life.

The Lover

I, personally, believe in soulmates. I also believe you can have more than one out there.

The relationship of love, sex, monogamy, trust and commitment between two people is the toughest kind of relation i can imagine. It's also the most beautiful relation of them all. 

Every day you see people, that you might be able to have a future with if you tried it out. But when in a relationship, you don't need that. You have told yourself that this single individual makes you a better person, and that you don't need to find happiness other places. At the same time as the feeling of being in love is bright, the feeling of having your heart broken or being left, is pure darkness. But as very clever guy once gave a great piece of dating advice: 

Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. - Albert Einstein

Human relations are important, and due to the social constructionism, we are all formed and defined by our surroundings. So if you want to figure out who "defines" you, then start looking around.